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The past week i'd been arguing loads of times about this. Why didn i pay for Mei Yin's prom ticket.
First of all, even if i pay, i would be my parents paying for it. Even if i pay it out of my own pocket, it's still my parents money. And besides, i'm not the only one with allowance if u know what i mean. Tatsuki said, 'if you invite the girl to come, then you should pay for her'. whats with the Should? is there such a thing as u SHOULD do something? It's always an option, whether or not u choose to do it or not. For example, one Should attend classes. It's a fact isnt it? But rule says, if you miss classes, you'll be punished. But still, there's lots of people who skip classes. Why? Dont rule say one cannot miss classes? Debbie said, 'it's the guy's courtesy to pay for the girl'. Does it mean that if the guy doesnt pay, he's faking the invitation? Or he's rude?
Last time, long ago, this tradition was so because the women are the ones that usually dont work and stay at home. Thus, they dont have financial income. That is why the guy pays for the girl. But now, both sexes work and yet, girls EXPECT the guys to pay for them. Why so? is it because the girls are looking down at themselves as being unable to support themselves? I dont know. What i believe is both are the same. I look upon girls as equals. Financially, educationally, and everything. Who gave girls the privilege? no one. Is there such a rule? no. Is the such a tradition? Yes. But issit followed by everyone? No. And who are those who follow? those who think that they are too rich, or they felt like treating the girl. It's not the duty for a man to treat women at all times. It's because he feels like it at that moment of time. Therefore, there's no such thing as a ShOuld in this arguement.
It's quite hard to actually put my thoughts into words, and besides, it's not really nice to blog about it anyway. So i therefore shall just leave it here. I SHALL say again. Everybody is Equal to me. And it's always fair that way. Bu still, how do one justify fairness? A thing is only fair when it's to the speaker's advantage. Take note. It's always the same. Including now. =)
First of all, even if i pay, i would be my parents paying for it. Even if i pay it out of my own pocket, it's still my parents money. And besides, i'm not the only one with allowance if u know what i mean. Tatsuki said, 'if you invite the girl to come, then you should pay for her'. whats with the Should? is there such a thing as u SHOULD do something? It's always an option, whether or not u choose to do it or not. For example, one Should attend classes. It's a fact isnt it? But rule says, if you miss classes, you'll be punished. But still, there's lots of people who skip classes. Why? Dont rule say one cannot miss classes? Debbie said, 'it's the guy's courtesy to pay for the girl'. Does it mean that if the guy doesnt pay, he's faking the invitation? Or he's rude?
Last time, long ago, this tradition was so because the women are the ones that usually dont work and stay at home. Thus, they dont have financial income. That is why the guy pays for the girl. But now, both sexes work and yet, girls EXPECT the guys to pay for them. Why so? is it because the girls are looking down at themselves as being unable to support themselves? I dont know. What i believe is both are the same. I look upon girls as equals. Financially, educationally, and everything. Who gave girls the privilege? no one. Is there such a rule? no. Is the such a tradition? Yes. But issit followed by everyone? No. And who are those who follow? those who think that they are too rich, or they felt like treating the girl. It's not the duty for a man to treat women at all times. It's because he feels like it at that moment of time. Therefore, there's no such thing as a ShOuld in this arguement.
It's quite hard to actually put my thoughts into words, and besides, it's not really nice to blog about it anyway. So i therefore shall just leave it here. I SHALL say again. Everybody is Equal to me. And it's always fair that way. Bu still, how do one justify fairness? A thing is only fair when it's to the speaker's advantage. Take note. It's always the same. Including now. =)
posted by Lim He Hui at
7:26 PM
3 Comments:
yay someone mentioned me in a blog!
i never actually thought deeply about "Why" i "should" pay, but its always nice to be polite.
I'm the kind of person who is bound more by courtesy than rules, I go early to class out of respect to the teacher and not because of the rules. If i think the teacher is worthless, i would break the rules even with consequences.
so everyone's different. people act according to their own reasoning, so you really do not have to protect yourself with logic.
I would not criticize you for not paying for her really. If she agrees than no fuss.
the reason I have said "you should pay for her..." was mainly because well, she is willing to actually go to KL hilton, just for you, i dunno how long its going to last or whether to attend after-party, but the fact that she is coming, for YOU seems to be quite a big thing for me. the girl must be quite attached to you to pay for herself *hint hint.
Yo guys, eddie has joined the conversation! okay, I think it is just unfair to blame the guy if he cannot pay. There is a difference between whether he should and whether he can. Guys are humans, we have limitations, if so happen it has got to do with the money we have, then can the rest of the world please try and understand this dificiency?
I mean yes, i want to be courteous, but i cant, im sorry but i cant! So dump me! go ahead! hate me! i thought you said you going to 'love me for who I trully am'. And being able or not able financially does not represent the true me!
I tell you what I will do. Im trully sorry, I cannot afford to pay for whatever it is you want. Why dont I substitute that with extra understanding, extra concern, extra attention, extra time and everything else. Yes, I am lacking in this area of the relationship, but im not going to be lacking the other areas. I am going to give my best in all other areas. And that comes from the bottom of my heart. Is that a fair trade?
Sigh... maybe girls should go up to guys and ask, 'Can you afford me or not?' before they start dating...
I dont know... I thought we love through our heart... not our minds... what kind of debate is this? HAHA!
When you're married, you'll split the housework duties with your wife then? XD
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